When in 1997 Vicki Bernadet founded FADA, an organisation that provides support to adults that were sexually abused during their childhood, she knew what she was dealing with. From the age of about 9 she had been abused by a close member of her family till she was 17 when she got a boyfriend and left home; only then did the abuse stop. During all those years she had been wishing that a ‘fada’ (Catalan for ‘fairy’) would come and carry her away to a safe place.
It took her nearly twenty years before she could talk about it; at that time she lived separated from her husband and was raising a daughter herself. For some years she had been writing poems in which she was able to pour out her heart. One day her niece discovered them and was touched by the pain they conveyed. Little by little Vicki could relieve her mind telling her niece what had been done to her. From that moment on it was as if a burden had been lifted and she felt that she could act more freely. Continue reading “From victim to counsellor”